"I Want A Girl Everyone Else Wants"

A friend recently told me that he only wants a girl that other people want. At first I was appalled by his comment. All the names in the book of what to call him came to mind as well as “why do I socialize with this person?” Then I started thinking, maybe there was something more to this. In a society where everyone wants to be liked and cares so much what others think, this started to make a lot of sense. While most people are unwilling or unable to admit such desires, here was someone who was very sure of what he wants. After all, why do we wear the fashions we wear, dive the cars we drive, buy the electronics we play with. It’s evident even with the cell phones we use. Aren’t they all symbols of what we’ve “achieved” in our lives? Other men will look at him and say wow I want to be him. Let’s face the facts, the title of trophy wife did not come out of thin air and is clearly not a retired term.

Don’t get me wrong, I’m not okay with this statement my friend made. There is obviously more to loving someone than gaining someone else’s approval. This guy has most likely never experienced true love. In reality, if one is so concerned about being that guy everyone else wants to be, he is really insecure with himself and I actually feel bad for him. Whatever happened to loving someone for their personality, honesty, sense of humor, integrity, common interests, and yes physical attraction and chemistry? I mean what one person finds attractive is not necessarily attractive to another person. So one couldn’t make the statement, “I want to be with someone hot,” and it still mean the same as “someone others want.” But I guess it does all come down to the standard view of what is hot in our society. After all, it isn’t the smart brainiac that sells beers, clothes, cologne, or cars. I don’t think I need to list the stereotypes because you are all visualizing them on your own. My point is a comment like that is really not as shocking as I thought. So I guess my friend is not the pig I first assumed him to be, but a product of our society. Beware singles…beware…

Seattle Loves To Be Naked

Seattle is full of people who don't care what anyone else thinks. I really admire that. However, I'm still a little shocked by what I see now and then. About a month after I moved here I heard about the Naked Fremont Riders. A part of me didn't really believe they could exist until I saw at least 30 people on bycicles riding through downtown fully "hanging" out if you know what I mean. Needless to say I was a little shocked..but hey it's Fremont.

So yesterday I was in my boss' office discussing some payroll issues. Whenever I'm in her office I tend to look out the window. I really can't help myself, you have the Space Needle right there, old fashioned brick apartments etc. Well low and behold, there is a naked man standing right in front of one of the apartment windows. Full frontal just hanging out with his hands on his hips. I thought it was a manaquin until he started moving. I instantly started blushing and put my head down saying, "Oh my God there is a naked man standing right there, I can't look up." Now let's keep in mind this is my boss. If I was with friends it may not have been as embarrassing. Of course we shared a good laugh and couldn't believe how clear he appeared. He had to be right up against the glass. So a few mins go by and he walks away and soon a woman is standing naked in front of the same window! She ends up opening the window and hanging out of it for a bit. Let me just say, it was a cold day yesterday, I could see someone doing that if this was California but it's jacket weather. They basically were in front of this window randomly all day. Must be nice to not be at work.I talked to a few co-workers about it and all kinds of stories came out about things that have been seen in surrounding apartment bulidings. I mean clearly this couple wanted to be seen. But isn't the joy of exposing yourself, the reaction you get from those who see? I mean our windows at work are tinted, I know they can't see that we can see them and quite honestly, most people who have a window office are not facing it the window. But I guess there was a girl who lived in a different apartment who every day would get dressed sometime in the afternoon in front of her window. Let me just say, my blinds are closed ALL THE TIME. I can't imagine thinking that someone can't see especially if i lived near a business. Anyways to top it off, her mirror was right there and she'd be checking herself out in the mirror for all to see. What I've been told is this tends to happen a lot more as it starts to get warmer. Might I add it was HOT in Sacramento, and people still didn't hang out naked in front of their windows or outside. Personally, I'm too shy to ever be into public nudity and I believe it should be kept sacred. Did I move to Europe and not know about it?